As college acceptances start arriving many parents and their college-bound seniors find themselves in the delightful position of sifting through multiple acceptances. The process often returns them to square one, forcing a period of soul-searching to discern what a school is and what it can offer.       To make this decision easier, Judy Ann Valyo, EdD, dean of freshman studies at New Jersey Institute of Technology (NJIT), recently prepared a checklist of 8 signs for parents and prospective college students to consider.  Valyo, a Fort Lee resident, is responsible for guiding new students—both freshman students and transfer students—through the academic process during their first year at NJIT. >>